For a long time, I’ve struggled with low self esteem and confidence issues. I have spoken before about my struggles with my mental health, having suffered with depression since the age of 12 and being diagnosed with anxiety four years ago. Turning thirty was a milestone for me. I was fed up of being so hard on myself and I started working on loving myself instead.
Loving yourself isn’t about being conceited, or thinking you are better than other people. It doesn’t mean you are full of yourself. Loving yourself is so important. Over the past 18 months or so I’ve worked hard on my self confidence. I spoke to a therapist and I dealt with some past issues that were affecting me. By no means am I 100% cured of my low self esteem. There are still parts of me that I am insecure about, and I struggle from time to time with my confidence and being able to feel good about myself daily, but I’ve definitely come a long way.
We Love Dates recently sent across some confidence boosting products and challenged me to think about the reasons I love myself. Their #welovereal campaign is all about shunning the filtered lives you see online and focusing on being true to yourself.
Since learning to love myself, I’ve realised the things that make me a little different are not things to be insecure about, they are what makes me unique. I have struggled with insecurity around the size of my chest for years, considering surgery and generally hiding underneath padded bras for as long as I can remember. It’s only been recently that I’ve embraced having small boobs and it feels liberating.
It isn’t just physical things that I’ve learnt to love, though. I love how caring I am, that I have empathy and will go to great lengths to make others feel good about themselves. I love that I have had the strength to make it out of difficult situations and come through the other side, and I love that I am starting to be able to live my life without constantly worrying what other people think of me.
Joining TikTok for me over lockdown, was a game changer. It gave me a platform where I could have some fun and not take myself too seriously, and it has been amazing for my confidence.
In the past, struggling with my self confidence, I have changed myself for the men I have dated. I have tried to be the person I think they want, instead of being real and ultimately it hasn’t worked out because I wasn’t being real. With Ed I have been myself and it’s so much less pressure, not putting on an act. Looking for that special someone can feel stressful, but ultimately loving yourself, being true to who you are is the most important thing. Everything else will just fall into place.
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