I had planned to make this post all about the parenting goals I am making for the new year but then I had a little look back at my post from last year.
I realised that I had put way too much pressure on myself at the beginning of 2017. I had berated myself for the way I was parenting our children, and I had ignored the fact that some of the sacrifices I was making were going to be good for us as a family in the long run.
So this year, instead of looking at all the things I feel I need to improve on as a mum, instead I thought I would focus on the positives.
I have put together a list of all the things I am proud of as a mum and the things I want to remember as we enter another year…
The children are all fed, clothed and have a roof over their heads
This is obviously an important one but the main components are reached on a daily basis. The children have a stable home environment, they have food provided for them, they have clothes and shoes that fit them.
Although this is the basic care they require, it can sometimes be overlooked. Yes, it is necessary, but it is reached daily and that is something as mothers more of should be proud of.
It’s ok not to be super mum, just being mum is enough.
I take time to read with the children
I love reading. Along with writing it is one of my biggest passions in life and I am so glad that my love of reading seems to be rubbing off on the children.
All three of them love listening to me read to them, and the older two are enjoying learning to read by themselves as well.
I enjoy baking and cooking with them
Although I don’t feel we do this enough, I really love to get creative in the kitchen with the children.
I want to make it more of a regular occurrence, going into the new year, but I’m not putting any pressure on us.
It would be lovely to make more things with the children though, if only to see the pure joy on their faces when they get to show Ed what they’ve made when he comes in from work.
They know they can discuss anything with me
I have always been very open and honest with the children. I don’t want to be a mum they are afraid to speak to and I have made it very clear that I am happy to discuss anything they wish to without judgement.
I am really proud of myself for this as it is something which is so important to me due to events in my own childhood
I say I love you often
I was once told I say I love you too often. This is ridiculous. It is impossible to tell somebody who means the world to you that you love them ‘too much’..
If something awful were to happen to me, I am confident that the children will remember how much their mother loved them because I say it to them several times a day. They’ve started saying it to me just as much, and I love it.
I come from a very tight knit, loving family and I love that my little family are so close as well
I explore places with them
Ed and I would love to take the children away more but time and money prevents us. We do make sure we travel as much as possible, and have taken the children away on a few holidays over the past few years.
I have some very exciting plans forming for our trips this year and am so excited to explore even more with the children!
I encourage their hobbies, but know when to stop pushing them
Carly absolutely loves to sing and dance along with the end credits of her favourite films so I encouraged her to go to a variety of dance classes over the past couple of years, which ultimately she didn’t overly enjoy.
I have since stopped trying to force it. Yes, she may enjoy having a boogey along at the end of a film, it doesn’t necessarily mean she wants to do that in front of other children her age.
I am determined not to be the pushy mum who makes her child miserable living vicariously through them and I will encourage the children without forcing anything.
I have three kids – an achievement in itself
Sometimes life gets a bit much and I feel dejected and a failure. Sometimes I forget to appreciate that my body created three amazing children, and that in itself is pretty incredible.
I have given birth three times, and gone through countless sleepless nights to get to where we are now, and that deserves a pretty big pat on the back if you ask me.