So today is my birthday (I may have mentioned it…). Nearing the end of my twenties, I’ve learnt a few things along the way. What better time than a birthday to reflect on the lessons life has taught me?
I may not have that many friends, but the ones I do have are pretty blooming brilliant, it has to be said. I celebrated my hen last weekend with some of my closest girls and seriously, I had the best time!
2. Not Everyone will Like You, and that’s Okay!
I still struggle a little with this one, but ultimately, you can be the nicest, most amazing person ever, and there will still be people who won’t ‘get’ you. The world would be a boring place if we all loved marmite, after all…
3. It’s Okay to Cry
I have spent countless hours crying in the privacy of my bedroom, alone. Crying isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s vital to keep strong. If you hold your emotions in too much, one day they will just pour out. It’s much healthier to cry often, when you feel you need to, and don’t be afraid to cry in front of those who love you, if they truly do love you, they’ll support you, not judge you, for it.
4. Disney is my Happy Place
Unfortunately it’s also pretty expensive. I have been fortunate enough to go to Paris several times, and to DisneyWorld in Florida once before. I cannot wait to revisit with all three of my kids in around a year and a half
5. My Mum is my Best Friend
Friends have come and gone throughout my life, and although I do have a couple of really close friends who have been a constant for the past few years, it’s my mum who has been there throughout everything. She is amazing and I am so lucky to have her in my life.
6. When You Find The One, You Really Will Know
It’s such a cliche but it’s totally true. I have been married before and although I knew it was a mistake, I kind of figured it was ok, because he loved me, but we weren’t right for each other. When I met Ed I just knew… I can’t explain it any better than that really, I can just be totally myself in front of him, and that’s what matters
7. I Don’t Have Many Regrets, Everything Truly Does Happen for a Reason
As I said, I’ve been married before, I also have 3 children by 3 different dads, which might make it hard for people to understand how I can carry on without big regrets, but I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason, and if I hadn’t of done some of the questionable things in the past, I wouldn’t have my three beautiful children or my amazing supportive partner now…
8. Forgiveness is Liberating
When I was in my late teens, my boyfriend of the time cheated on me with one of my friends. I didn’t find out until a year after it happened, by which point it turned out all our mutual friends knew. I was so, so angry (more so with her than him) that for a long time I held a lot of bitterness towards her and it was eating me up inside. When I forgave her, I felt so much better for it.
9. I Push Myself Too Hard
I need to cut myself a break sometimes. I’m constantly on edge, thinking and stressing largely to do with my anxiety, but it’s exhausting and I need to switch off sometimes!
10. Being a Mum Didn’t Come Easy to Me
Some people are totally maternal, I am not one of those people, and sometimes being a mum has been hard work. I didn’t admit it for a long time, but I don’t have anything to be ashamed of. I may not have been a natural at motherhood but I work hard to be the best mum I can be to my children, and that’s what matters
11. We Judge Ourselves Way More than Other People Do
I constantly feel that other people are judging me. I care a lot about what other people think of me, and I imagine all the things they’re thinking about me when I’m out and about. But your biggest critic is yourself, your inner voice, and often other people are too busy thinking about themselves and their own issues rather than judging you.
12. I Love Food
Food is amazing. I love so many different dishes that I honestly struggle when faced with the question of which meal would I eat for the rest of my life if I could only have one… I will never be super skinny because my metabolism and love of food won’t allow it, and I’ve come to terms with that.
13. Life Goes So Fast
It’s scary how fast time goes by as you get older. It almost feels like you can blink and miss huge chunks of time. I am awful at wishing time away, and I need to stop it and live in the moment more
14. Growing Old is a Blessing which we Should Embrace
So many people leave this world without being able to experience old age. We are so scared of ageing, and fight against it, when we should really be proud, and embrace it.
15. If You Don’t Enjoy It, You Won’t Stick to It
I have tried so many different exercise routines only to stop after a week or two because I’ve just not been enjoying it. If you don’t enjoy something, the odds are you won’t be able to keep it up
16. Trying New Things is Worth It
Around ten years ago I hadn’t tried half the things I now love. There are some things I’ve tried and hated (indoor skydiving to name one of the worst) but there’s something really liberating about trying new things. I absolutely love curries, fajitas, lamb and chocolate spread these days but, believe it or not, they were all things I would have turned my nose up at a few years ago
17. You Should Follow Your Heart, Not Your Head
Sometimes it’s hard to not let logic step in, but when it comes to love and big life decisions, sometimes you’ve just got to do what’s right for you, even if it doesn’t make much sense. Life is too short to have what ifs.
18. No Matter How Many Batteries You Buy, You’ll Never Find Them When You Need Them
Seriously. I have lost count of the times I’ve purchased essentials such as batteries, paracetamol or phone screen protectors only to not be able to find any of them when I actually need them. It’s one of life’s little mysteries
19. Money Can’t Buy You Happiness, But it Can Help
Ok, money can’t buy you happiness, but it can help relieve stress a little. When you have no money, it’s hard to relax and enjoy life, and sometimes it would be easier if money weren’t an issue
20. You Should Always Do What You Want, Not What Others Want You To Do
When I was younger I felt pressured into going to university by my parents and by my school. I have always wanted to train as a beautician but now I feel it’s too late for me.
21. You Should Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
I get really panicky when I have to do things I haven’t done before, or things which make me feel nervous, but it’s important to push yourself from time to time or you’ll never experience new things and you could miss out on amazing opportunities
22. My Kids Are My Reason to Live
I recently wrote a post on my 13 Reasons Why. Although I am incredibly low, and I have considered a way out before, my children are the reason I’m still here. You can have a million reasons why, but you just need one reason to live, my kids are mine.
23. I should Have Grown Up in a Different Decade
I wish I had been born ten or fifteen years earlier so that I could have grown up in the eighties. I love the music, the way of life, even the somewhat questionable fashion…
24. Some People Will Stab You in the Back to Get Ahead
Blogging has shown me a side to people I hadn’t seen much since being at school. Some people are ruthless, and it can be hard to sort out the genuine people from those who are just trying to succeed no matter how
25. Anytime Past 9pm is Too Late to Start Watching a Film
Seriously, if I start watching a film after 9 I end up falling asleep, or taking less in. My brain seems to start switching off around half ten…
26. Eating Healthy, Exercising & Taking Care of Yourself Actually Make You Feel Good
This one is something I have only learnt in the past six months. Who knew that the things that are good for you, can actually make you feel so good about yourself?
27. 28 is a Big Number
This has been lengthier than I imagined when I started… it turns out 28 is a fairly large number. Still, at least I’m not turning 40 quite yet or my list would be longer still…
28. I am Good Enough
I put myself down way too much. I need to be more positive and to remember to just take every day as it comes. Living in the moment is an important skill I am yet to master, but it is something I’ll be working on now I’m only 2 years away from the big 3-0