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While planning a wedding typically falls on the bride to arrange and put into place, with the groom being told to just show up on the day, the entirety of wedding planning should not be made by just one half of the couple.
Planning a wedding that truly reflects both of you as a couple requires mutual understanding and input. This ensures that the day is not just what you individually want but also what you both need and desire. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Your partner is there to support you and share the responsibility.
This post will focus on the joy of making major decisions together when planning a wedding. It’s not about one person taking the lead but about both partners sharing the responsibility and making choices that reflect their shared vision. The process of planning your special day together can be a truly exciting and rewarding experience.
The Budget
Especially if you’re going to be paying for it yourselves or if one person is footing the entire bill, you need to be on the same page about the budget for your wedding and what you’re prepared to spend on to bring your big day together.
Venue
Where you are getting married should be decided together, too. Do you want a church wedding, a hotel retreat, or something more quirky, like a backyard wedding? There are many choices when choosing your wedding venue, but it shouldn’t be left to one person. Both parties should have a joint say in the venue for your wedding day.
Wedding Music
The type of music played at your wedding will form part of the theme and make it more personal to you. If there are specific songs you want to include that mean something to you both together or separately, i.e. a song that reminds you of your partner and vice versa, you need to make sure they’re included. From knowing the most popular first dance songs to having songs to walk down the aisle to or simply playing after your ceremony, you need to decide on the perfect wedding playlist for you as a couple.
Guests
You want people in attendance who mean something to you, and it’s not fair to expect one person to take on the burden of knowing who to invite or leave off the guest list. Discuss together who you want, how many people you’re inviting and why you need these people so everyone you love and care about is there to celebrate your big day. Remember, this is a day to surround yourself with people who support and care for you; if you want a family get-together, host a BBQ, as the popular saying goes.
Theme
Ideally, you will both decide on the theme for your wedding together. After all, it’s the day of the two of you, and if you’re not going to feel comfortable with a certain theme, you need to be given the opportunity to veto it. Take the time to talk through how you envision your wedding day, how you can incorporate ideas to make both of you happy, and ultimately, what the overall theme will look like.
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