This week’s Behind the Bride is with Victoria from Lylia Rose whose laid back wedding sounds fantastic!
Hi Victoria, first of all, congratulations on your marriage! When was the big day?
Thank you very much! It was Tuesday 18th August 2015, so two years ago this weekend!
Tell me a bit about yourself and your partner. When and where did you first meet?
I’m Victoria and he’s Ben. We met at Superdry head office where we both worked. He still works there, but I left when on maternity with our daughter.
He works in IT and I worked in retail samples. We started talking after he came and fixed my laptop a few times. I did a really silly thing once – I thought my Wi-Fi wasn’t working and called him to come and fix it. I’d not realised the blue lights at the top of my keyboard were actually touch buttons and I’d been lying my pen over them which had pressed it off. To this day he thinks I did it on purpose to get him to come and see me!
We got talking from there and every time he had to come and fix my computer. We soon realised we were into a lot of the same music and got on really well. We’d started talking during the winter 2010 and went out for a meal and night out in February 2011. That was that!
How did they propose? Or was it you who popped the question?
We’d spoken about marriage quite early on. He actually asked me if I wanted to get married and have kids. At that point I said I really wanted children, but didn’t know about marriage. Then thought of getting divorced and it not being a successful marriage put me off. The thought of a huge wedding also terrified me.
We had a baby quite quickly together as it just felt so right and I knew then I wanted to marry him. I wanted us to be a proper family unit and I wanted to have a family surname and for it to be official, rather than just changing my surname.
I can’t remember who brought it up, but we discussed it and decided we’d do it one day. Not long after he told me he needed my help as he was trying to order a ring for me and had no clue what to get! He was trying to order an engagement ring! So it wasn’t a surprise, but I’d have hated that anyway. I know I’d have died of embarrassment if he’d got down on one knee or tried to do anything romantic.
It worked out well as I got to choose my engagement ring. When it arrived he didn’t tell me and took me up a hill which is quite special to us to kind of pop the question officially. I still found it embarrassing, so I’m really glad it wasn’t anything more fancy!
Tell me a bit about your big day. Where did you tie the knot? Did you have a theme or a colour scheme?
We got married at a registry office just to do the formalities with only our mums there to witness it. What we’d class as our actual special day was a few days later when we had a ‘Wedfest’ in our back garden. That was our wedding.
We didn’t do a pretend service or get married, but just had a party all day! We set up a marquee and decorated everywhere with bunting and huge paper pompoms. We hired some straw bales for extra seating. We set up a drinks table and a cupcake table. We hired a stone baked pizza company to come and cook pizzas for everyone and they even walked around serving them to the guests.
We hired a close up magician and a photographer to document the day. We had all the fun parts of a wedding, only none of the traditional stuff. We had no dress code so people could dress up if they wanted or come in jeans if they felt more comfortable.
We created a party playlist of all our current favourite music and had it blaring all day long. Everyone felt relaxed and happy. It was the most perfect day for us and our guests.
What was your favourite memory from your day?
All of it! The magician was so good – it was great to see everyone’s reactions as they couldn’t work out how he’s read their minds or taken something off them and had it in his pocket on a keyring. He really was amazing.
The pizza was also pretty tasty too! I was just so happy everyone had a great time and we luckily had sunshine for the bulk of the day as it was outdoors.
Was there anything that didn’t go to plan? Or that you would perhaps have done differently?
I’d have made sure I had a couple of the pizzas! I was so busy talking to different guests I barely had any! When I did get round to having a slice it was the last one and I could have eaten so much more! Otherwise I think the day was great and I wouldn’t change anything.
Do you have any advice for future brides to be?
Do what makes you happy. It’s your wedding day.
I hear so many people worrying about pleasing everyone else, when really it’s their big day and they are the person they should be pleasing.
Thanks so much for sharing your special day with us Victoria, it sounds perfect! You can follow Victoria on Twitter!
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