If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen me post a shot of me posing in my bikini back in March, just before Ed and I headed off on our honeymoon to Mexico. I posted it as, although it made me cringe doing so, I wanted to try and feel more confident about my body and all it has done for me, including giving me three amazing kids!
I’m happy to say that, despite being bigger than I would have initially liked when going away, that I managed to have a brilliant time on holiday and even wore a bikini by the pool without any inhibitions. This may sound totally normal to you, but I’ve had a bit of a love/hate relationship with my body ever since I was a teenager, and my mid-section in particular since having my first child almost eight years ago, and I feel incredibly self conscious about 95% of the time.
After years of beating myself up over my ‘flaws’, the stretch marks, wobbly bits of skin and small boobs, I’ve had enough of feeling rubbish about myself. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with eating healthily, working out, and wanting to feel better about yourself, but that feeling shouldn’t correspond with a number on the scales or the label in your jeans. So recently I’ve been doing some things in a bid to feel more confident about myself, starting from the bottom (literally).
Buying Streamlined & Supportive Underwear
I love underwear, but my current underwear doesn’t love me. My drawers are filled with impractical pairs from my past, which neither fit me well, nor do anything for my figure. If I’m going to celebrate my body, a good place to start is with underwear that smoothes and supports me! I mean, wearing a Knix bra might not instantly cure me of my insecurities, but it would definitely help me feel more confident than I do in my current one! I have worn so many outfits in the past that, with the right underwear, would look amazing, but instead I’ve ended up tugging down hems, self conscious of parts of my body where my knickers and bra have cut in and caused odd lumps.
Topping up the Tan
Something which always makes me feel instantly more confident, even when my self esteem has hit rock bottom, is a nice tan. Having recently come back from Mexico, I’m lucky enough to have a natural one, despite the rather gloomy weather we are having currently in the UK. However, when I’ve not seen the sun in a long time, a good application of fake tan can do wonders for my confidence. I always feel so much sexier undressed when my skin is golden, and it has a knock on effect. They don’t say ‘fake it till you make it’ for no reason!
Ditching the Scales
One of the best things I did this year was to throw out my scales. I had become obsessed, in the lead up to our wedding, with checking my weight religiously, every morning, and it was destroying my self confidence. Weighing yourself that often is not only damaging to your self-esteem, it is also pointless, as your weight can fluctuate throughout the day by as much as half a stone due to factors such as water retention. Since I stopped weighing myself, I have been focusing more on how I feel in my own skin, rather than what that number on the scales was telling me, and I feel a lot better.
Booking a Boudoir Shoot
I had a boudoir shoot done prior to our wedding last year, as I wanted to give Ed the photos as a wedding present (he loved it, by the way, would totally recommend one). I want to book in another one for next year, to celebrate turning 30, which has always been something that seems to have a negative connotation. Rather than fearing this milestone birthday, I want to celebrate my body the way it is now, so that I can be more confident, but also so I have something to look back on when I get a lot older, to remind myself how hot I was (yes, I cringed writing that, but I so want to feel that confident in my own skin).
Re-Reading The Goddess Revolution
Finally, I am going to re-read the Goddess Revolution book by Mel Wells. This book totally changed the way I thought about food a couple of years ago when I first read it, and for the first time since I was a child, I found myself enjoying meals without worrying about calories, or how long I would have to exercise to burn the food off. I found reading the book hugely beneficial.
How do you regain body confidence when your self esteem is low?
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