This week’s Behind the Bride is with Nicola from Mummy to Dex.
Hi Nicola, first of all, congratulations on your marriage! When was the big day?
We got married on April 5th 2014, the day before my 28th birthday. We will have been married for three years this year.
Tell me a bit about yourself and your partner. When and where did you first meet?
Neil and I met in 2010 at Leeds Festival. I was camping with my friend and we arrived with early bird tickets on the Thursday.
I was snoozing on the Friday morning when I was hit in the head by a chair someone had lobbed at my tent. I came out to see what all the commotion was and a guy came over to apologise. My friend and I spent the day with this lad and his mates getting drunk and having a laugh.
That evening, another one of his friends arrived and straight away, I was thinking ‘Wow’. I was so drunk at this point that I blatantly said to my friend, ‘Go away so I can talk to this guy’. We spent the rest of the evening together until I was ready to pass out in my tent.
The next day we got chatting again and we went to watch the bands together. In fact, we were inseparable the whole weekend, I even ended up driving him home on the Monday and meeting his Mum. The problem we had was that we were both seeing other people!
Once we were back home, we started texting and agreed to meet up once we had finished with the unfortunate souls we were already dating. The rest, as they say, is history.
We had a long distance relationship between north Wales and Liverpool for the first two years, only seeing each other on weekends and the odd weekday night before we moved in together in 2012.
How did they propose? Or was it you who popped the question?
We were on holiday in Australia. It was my birthday and Good Friday. We went out in Cairns for a meal in a Thai restaurant and I was really nervous because Neil had been carrying this giant box around with him all day, including the whole three hour flight Cairns from Melbourne. I’d had my presents in the morning so I had this feeling he was going to propose.
After the meal, we went for a walk along the beach which was when he got down on one knee and gave me a little speech. We went to a restaurant/bar to celebrate but the law in Australia states that you can’t buy alcohol unless you are eating a meal on Good Friday.
A couple asked us to join them, as they had a plate of food and we ordered a bottle of wine, much to the bar manager’s disgust. The bottle cost $50 and I remember thinking how ridiculously expensive it was, but you only get engaged once.
It turned out that when I went to the loo, the couple we sat with paid for the bottle as a congratulatory gesture. I then ended up leaving the giant box on the table when we left the restaurant. I will never forget the manager running after Neil shouting, ‘Mate, you’ve forgot….ummm’ before realising it was possible that Neil had not yet popped the question.
Tell me a bit about your big day. Where did you tie the knot? Did you have a theme or a colour scheme?
We tied the knot in my hometown of Denbigh, north Wales.. We held the ceremony in the church I was christened in: St. Marcella’s.. We went on to have the wedding breakfast and evening-do at Faenol Fawr, which is a manor house hotel in Bodelwyddan.
We have always loved travelling so it was natural that we had a travel theme. This involved hot air balloons stacked on travel books as centrepieces; a vintage atlas as a guestbook; an old suitcase with vintage postcards for guests to write messages on; world globe cake pops as favours and a map of the world as a seating plan.
What was your favourite memory from your day?
My hometown has a beautiful ruined castle and after the ceremony, my husband and I drove up to it in our rented vintage car. We spent an hour or so soaking in the emotions and posing for photographs with our wonderful photographer, Emma.
We drank a bottle of champagne and wandered up and down the grounds of the castle, giggling and kissing and generally just enjoying being man and wife. It gave the guests plenty of time to make the five mile journey to Faenol Fawr and meant we had a roaring reception upon our arrival.
Was there anything that didn’t go to plan? Or that you would perhaps have done differently?
Firstly, I left my car keys at the hotel I was staying in the previous night. I had cleverly left my car at the wedding reception venue the night befor so we could casually slope off the day after the wedding on our honeymoon.
After the wedding breakfast, I went looking for my keys so I could touch up my make up to realise the awful truth. Luckily, Faenol Fawr’s owner overheard me freaking out and sent an employee to go and collect them. It was only a 10 mile round journey but it was massively appreciated.
The second thing (and the biggest) was I fell down the staircase during the wedding breakfast. My mum and I had snuck off to the loo before the speeches started and I toppled down three stairs twisting my ankle. I was in so much pain and felt so dizzy that I ended up lying down on the red carpet outside. I bravely continued on, eventually spending hours dancing on it well into the night, which was all well and good until I woke up the following day. My ankle had swelled to twice its normal size and I ended up in A&E where they sent my on my way with huge pink ibruprofen tablets and a pair of crutches.
Do you have any advice for future brides to be?
Don’t sweat the small stuff. The day will pass by in a flash and during the planning process it is easy to get caught up in the really finer details that people won’t even notice during the big day. The best piece of advice I was given was to take some time out, just me and my husband, to soak it all in, which we did. It was the most incredible hour of the day and I recommend every bride to do the same.
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