This week Leslie from Messy Blog reminisces about her totally unique and relaxed wedding in London.
First of all, congratulations on your marriage! When was the big day?
Our wedding was on the 7th of Jan 2014, which was actually our ten year anniversary of getting together. Marriage was always on the cards but after having my son, I couldn’t bare us having different surnames so Dexter was 7 months old at the time.
Tell me a bit about yourself and your partner. When and where did you first meet?
#Awkward… We met at our place of work. I was in a ‘going nowhere’ relationship that I wasn’t happy in and Liam started working there as agency staff. My friend took the mick out of me because she could see I really fancied Liam from the start.
The feeling was obviously mutual because Liam used to find excuses to talk to me and then handed me his phone number in secret on a piece of paper down one of the aisles in the warehouse. I was 20 and the time and Liam was 19. It was all very exciting!
We met in the November, I broke up with my then partner over Christmas/New year (it was a long and horrible drawn out break up – Everything is so dramatic when you are young). By Jan 7th we had got together and by February 21st, we were living together!
How did they propose? Or was it you who popped the question?
It was me! I was completely smitten with him. I’d asked him jokingly before several times.
A friend at the time was really encouraging of my writing and often gave me a subject to write about if I was stuck (I had a silly little sort of blog on tumblr where I used to just mumble away that nobody ever read) She challenged me with writing about Liam and I got so into writing all of these things that I loved about him that I ended the post with a proposal. He read it while we were in bed and then looked and me and said ‘yeah, alright then’.
Tell me a bit about your big day. Where did you tie the knot? Did you have a theme or a colour scheme?
We were planning a huge American wedding! We were going to fly to New York, stay in the Plaza for a couple of nights and then hire an RV to tour America for 6 weeks, finishing with a Vegas wedding. There are so many things we both want to see and do in America, It was going to be the trip of a life time.
Then I found I was 5 months pregnant and everything changed. Not in a bad way, we still did it all our way, just not as originally planned. The America trip is currently on hold until our kids are much older and will remember everything and benefit from it.
Once Dexter was born and I started having to fill things in with his surname being different to mine, I hated it. I wanted to be the same as my family so we planned a quiet little wedding.
We got married in Woolwich town hall. It was just after Christmas so they still had fairy lights up and was so pretty. The wedding was very much about us, becoming a proper family.
We didn’t need and expensive party, I wasn’t about to spend thousands on a dress and we didn’t invite a whole tonne of guests that we hadn’t seen for years. There were no more than about 15/20 people at the most, including us!
It was a small and perfect ceremony and afterwards we had a meal at the Slug and Lettuce in the o2. From there, everybody went back to Peterborough and Liam and I had a night in London.
We went to see the Lion King Stage show and then walked for ages along the Thames. It was perfect.
What was your favourite memory from your day?
All of it! Everything from swinging on the bars of a tube in my wedding dress, to the songs we chose, all the way through to the squid for my starter. Even the rain was good. It was fun trying to stay dry and dodge the puddles as we ran across London.
The absolute only thing I would have done differently is that I would have hired a photographer. All of the photos were taken on phones or similar and we don’t really have anything worth blowing up to go on the wall.
Do you have any advice for future brides to be?
Do what you want to do. Don’t buckle to the pressure of your mum telling you that your Great Aunt Mabel you’ve never even met has to be there. If you want the men in jeans, do it. If you want to wear a black dress, do it. It’s your day. Make it special for YOU!
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