This week’s Behind the Bride is with Cath from The Battle Mum.
Hi Cath, thanks for taking part in the series. First of all, congratulations on your marriage! When was the big day?
The big day was the 27th May 2010.
Tell me a bit about yourself and your partner. When and where did you first meet?
Both my husband and I are Irish and originally from Dublin. We actually met online on ICQ (which was chatrooms like MSN). We started chatting in August 2000 after I’d split from a previous boyfriend and met face-to-face two and half months later in the November.
We decided to meet one Sunday afternoon in Dublin city but there had been torrential rain and flooding, so we postponed it to the following day. We met in a pub in the centre of town after my hubby had finished work and, although we had suggested going for food, we didn’t and before we knew it it was 11pm and time to head home. The rest as they say is history.
How did they propose? Or was it you who popped the question?
My hubby and I had talked about getting engaged and we were due to head to London one March to meet his sisters for a weekend. I said that I didn’t want a proposal in front of an audience, so he had to think of something else. We went for a curry on Valentine’s Day in our favourite Indian restaurant in Shrewsbury and I thought he was going to do it there. He didn’t which surprised me.
When we got home, we decided to open a bottle of wine and he shouted from the kitchen that he had cut his hand. I walked in to find his hand covered in a tea towel and him saying he needed me to check it in case we needed to head to A&E. And when he opened the tea towel he was holding a ring. He asked, I said yes. And I was so happy he had done it the way he did, just us at home.
Tell me a bit about your big day. Where did you tie the knot? Did you have a theme or a colour scheme?
We had originally planned to get married in 2007 in Cyprus, but we went through a bad patch 5 months before the wedding and had to cancel it, much to my embarrassment. Then, we decided to try again and this time, decided to get married back in Dublin.
We set a date for May 2010 and had an enormous amount of help from my sister-in-law who organised everything from the hotel to the church to the cars. We couldn’t have done it all without her help.
We got married in the local church on my husband’s side of Dublin before moving to my area of Dublin for the reception. The colour theme was sage green, after I spotted the perfect bridesmaid dresses in Coast.
Their colour set the theme for the rest of the wedding. I found lots of sage green accessories and decorations online, especially on the Confetti website and got inspiration from a few wedding magazines.
My mother-in-law agreed to do my flowers and she did them exactly how I wanted them without me even explaining what I wanted. She somehow knew from the flowers I picked in the market the day before the wedding. And she saved us a fortune. The bill for the flowers came to a grand total of €90, for three bouquets, two flower girl arrangements and 30 button holes.
Our photographer was an amazing find. I had searched online and found a forum where I asked about wedding photographers who covered Dublin. I got an email from a photographer based in Cork who was just starting her business and she just sounded perfect. I met with her when I was visiting Dublin a few months before the wedding and knew she was the one. And as we were one of her first clients we were given a special rate and she did an amazing job.
Most of the time she blended into the background and I never even knew she had been there to catch certain pictures until I saw the pictures online a few months later. To this day I cannot believe how lucky we got with her.
What was your favourite memory from your day?
Oh there are so many memories. Firstly, having to sit in the car around the corner from the church waiting for my husband to arrive! I was 30 minutes early for the ceremony. Secondly, seeing so many of our friends and family who had travelled from the UK and Denmark to be with us on our special day.
The speeches were a hoot as the best man had roped in my husbands’ sisters for some stories for him and my sister revealing a very embarrassing fact about me in front of my parents.
And lastly, the quiet time my husband and I had before the meal with our photographer. She got some great pictures of us alone which I will always treasure.
Was there anything that didn’t go to plan? Or that you would perhaps have done differently?
The gifts for my husband and the best man were forgotten about! I left them with the best man’s girlfriend and because they’d all had a very late night, they were forgotten in their room! I should have sorted them myself. Other than that, everything went really well.
Do you have any advice for future brides to be?
Do not let mothers, mother-in-law’s or other interfering busy bodies try to make decisions for you or to force you to invite certain people. We had the age old “oh but you have to invite so-and-so” conversations to which we responded with “if you want to invite them go ahead but you’ll be paying for their meal”. Weddings bring out both the good and bad in people but it’s your day and YOU decide how it goes. Do not let anyone try to strong arm you or railroad you into things you don’t want, even if they are contributing to the wedding!
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